Christian men what are you looking for? When left
to our own devices, it causes women to question and wonder why. And here are a
few theories that I’ve found currently floating around this topic:
1. Savior Complex
Could it be that some Christian men pursue women
outside of the church because of the savior complex—a man’s need to save the
damsel in distress? Could it be that men see the women in the church not
needing a savior, so they pursue women who need one?
2. Celibacy
Some Christian women are pursuing celibacy prior
to marriage. Could it be that some Christian men don’t share these same values
and desire someone who is willing to have sex prior to marriage? So they pursue
women outside of the church who share the same viewpoint?
3. Too Holy
Women in the church choose to pursue a more disciplined
lifestyle of prayer, fasting, studying the Bible, etc. Are these women too holy
or too spiritual for some Christian men? Could it be that these men don’t want
to be held to a higher level of accountability by Christian women? Could this
be the reason why some Christian men pursue a new believer or someone who is
not as mature in their faith over more mature Christian women?
4. Party Girl
Women in the church are perceived as having no
social life outside of their church obligations. As such, they are pigeonholed
as being boring. Although this is a true statement for some, it is not true for
all. Could this general perception be the reason why Christian men pursue women
outside of the church because they want a woman who is more lively and ready to
have fun?
5. Sexual Experience
Many men have expressed their desire not to be
with a virgin. Do Christian men prefer someone who has some sexual experience
over those who have none?
6. Ministry Driven
Most women in the church are interested in
cultivating their relationship with God and, in doing so, they begin to grow
and mature in God’s purpose and plans for their lives. For some, that
means pastoring, preaching and teaching the Word of God.
Are Christian men intimated by these women
because they are growing stronger in their faith and pursuing God’s call on
their life? Do they feel their leadership or counsel will be questioned if they
marry a woman who is in ministry? Do they pursue someone less mature in
their faith to grow with?
However, I have the strong opinion that Christian
ladies should hold on to the belief which they have.A Christian man who
recognises and appreciate good virtues will come around.
It’s possible that some, if not all of the above are reasons why some spiritually-mature Christian men pursue less spiritually-mature Christian women. But men, we would love to hear from you.
Christian men, PLEASE help the single Christian
women out. Why are you choosing women outside of the church? What are you
looking for? What do you want in a mate?
Source: BMWK
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